Compare not your wife to your mother
A friend told me that his wife, Ann, was fussing at him about some issue when he bravely told her, “Now just you remember that my mom lives only a mile across the river and she can still make mighty good biscuits and gravy!"
I experienced something similar recently. Please allow a bit of background. Most everyone likes my wife, Janice, but she can be fiery, especially toward me. She tells me that I am intelligent but that I do not have much common sense and that I do not know which end to hold a screwdriver, that I can’t see road signs nor read a map and on and on and on. And she is mostly right!